The
first thing you can do, to make love and the heartbreaks that often come with
it a little easier to bear, is to avoid rushing into new relationships and
avoid blindly trusting every guy you meet. Fairy-tale romances are beautiful to
believe in and you can hold a happy image of your future in
mind, but don’t expect that every
man you meet will be one you settle down with and marry. Life is never quite as
simple, as it is in the movies, so listen to your heart as well as your mind,
and you won’t be so disappointed
if things don’t work out.
2.
Use your head, as well as your heart
It
is hard not to let your heart rule your head when you fall in love, but you
really should try andfind a balance if you
can. Dating is not only about the great nights out and the fun time. If you are
serious about a guy, then it’s about your future too. Try and take a cold, analytical look at
the people you date and ask yourself, is he really the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?
3.
Don’t settle for less
than you deserve
You
can’t sit on the
side-lines, turning down everyone that you meet, but you have the right to be a
little bit picky! Don’t jump into serious
relationships with guys that you are unsure about and keep your eyes open for their faults. You should only be
making commitments to men you are absolutely crazy about, so don’t settle for second best just because you
don’t want to be on your own.
4.
Don't let love blind you
to the truth
Hindsight
is a wonderful thing, but it doesn’t mend a broken heart. Don’t ignore he signs that he might be fooling
around. It’s so easy to blind
yourself to the obvious signs that a guy is messing you around. You tell
yourself that ‘he wouldn’t’, ‘he couldn’t’ and ‘it’s not happening’. If you think that your man is playing
away, then ask him for the truth, because if you ignore it, it will only make
the inevitable breakup even more painful when it comes.
5.
Don’t rush into things
Take
things steady, even when you think you have met the One. If you go from first
kiss, to moving in with him, within a few days, you are likely to be very
disappointed. The idea of whirlwind romances sounds wonderful, but they rarely
go the distance. If he really is the One, then he’s not going to mind you taking things slowly
at first.
6.
Talk about the relationship
When
you are starting to feel that the relationship could be really going places,
make sure that he feels the same way. Try and find out what his plans for the
future are, and tell him how you are feeling about the relationship. You don’t want to find yourself saying: ‘But I thought you wanted the same things as
I do’.
7.
Keep your options open, especially in
the earlier stages of a relationship
While
cheating or flirting with other guys is never a good idea, you shouldn’t exclude all other members of the opposite
sex from your life, just because you are in love with someone. It sounds a bit callous to say, keep your options open, but you really should,
especially in the earlier stages of a relationship. You don’t have to completely alienate other men,
because you’ve just met Mr
Right; just let them know that you are not available, at the moment.
8.
Don’t forget your friends
Your
friends will be there for you through any number of different relationships, so
long as you don’t dump all your
friends the moment you fall in love. It’s healthy to have friends outside of a relationship anyway, so
stay in touch with them and go out with them sometimes. Don’t make one man your entire world, however
much you love him.
9. Listen to what other people are saying
You
can date whoever you want, but it is still wise to listen to what other people say about your
man. If your friends and family don’t seem to like your guy, there could be very good reasons for that. Sometimes, people who are not in the relationship can see
far more, than the person who is in love.
10.
Don’t lose sight of your
own goals
Love
is great; it’s a wonderful
feeling, but it shouldn’t be the only thing
in your life. Keep your hobbies, interests and follow your own dreams, because
you are more than just the other half of a relationship. Your life is your own
and, so long as you never lose sight of that, you will always have something
else to concentrate on, if love doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped it would.
Stay
happy, love and be loved!
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